SA Men: Silence on Mental Health Costs Dearly
Mental health professionals in South Africa are raising concerns about the reluctance of men to seek help for mental health issues, often waiting until they reach a crisis point. This delay in seeking support carries significant personal and societal costs, experts warn.
The issue stems from deeply ingrained societal expectations of masculinity, which often discourage men from expressing vulnerability or seeking assistance. Traditional notions of strength and stoicism can lead men to suppress their emotions and avoid acknowledging struggles with mental wellbeing. This silence can manifest in various ways, from avoiding conversations about feelings to neglecting self-care and delaying professional help.
“We’re seeing a pattern where men only reach out when they’re in severe distress – experiencing suicidal thoughts or engaging in harmful behaviours,” explains Dr. Zola Mthembu, a clinical psychologist based in Johannesburg. “By then, the situation is often significantly more complex and requires intensive intervention. Early intervention, even for minor concerns, can prevent escalation and improve outcomes.”
The consequences of delayed help extend beyond the individual. Untreated mental health issues in men can impact families, relationships, and workplaces. Increased stress, anxiety, and depression can lead to strained partnerships, difficulties in parenting, and decreased productivity.
Experts emphasize the importance of fostering open conversations about mental health and challenging harmful stereotypes. Creating safe spaces where men feel comfortable sharing their experiences without fear of judgment is crucial. Initiatives promoting men's mental wellbeing, such as support groups and awareness campaigns, are also vital in breaking down barriers and encouraging help-seeking behaviour.
“It’s about normalising the conversation and letting men know that it’s okay to not be okay,” adds Mthembu. “Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. We need to shift the narrative and encourage men to prioritise their mental wellbeing alongside their physical health.” Resources and support services are available throughout South Africa, including helplines, counselling services, and mental health professionals. Early action can save lives and improve the quality of life for countless men across the country.
